Embrace Wholeness: Self-Discovery During Aries Season
In a recent therapy session, my therapist delivered a powerful insight that resonated deeply with me. She observed that I lack spaces where I can truly feel whole. "You can't be whole anywhere," she remarked. "Do you know of any places that can hold you?" This question lingered in my mind, prompting a journey of self-discovery.
Wholeness, as defined by the dictionary, is the quality of being complete. Many Black femmes, especially those raised by southern women, have been conditioned to prioritize the needs of others, often at the expense of their own well-being. We've witnessed our grandmothers ensuring everyone else is fed before themselves, our aunties working tirelessly without rest, and our mothers being everything to everyone, neglecting their own self-care. This pattern of self-sacrifice has been passed down through generations, much like the tradition of sharing paper plates at a family gathering.
In the midst of our busy lives, when do we find the time to unlearn these ingrained behaviors? How do we create a space to embrace all facets of ourselves? Aries season, spanning from March 21 to April 19, presents a unique opportunity to embrace our wholeness and potential. This astrological period encourages us to show up as our complete selves.
Aries: Guiding Us to Our True Selves
Symbolized by the Ram, Aries is a sign that naturally charges toward its desires. Ruled by the element of fire, Aries season ignites a spark within us, urging us to explore our authentic selves. Even if the path ahead is unclear, Aries energy inspires us to embark on a journey of self-discovery, helping us understand what it means to be whole.
Pleasure activist adrienne maree brown speaks about the importance of unlearning martyrdom, the act of self-sacrifice for others. "We have to unlearn the idea that we have to earn pleasure, rest, or love," she asserts.
During Aries season, we are encouraged to move in ways that align with our true selves, without depleting our energy. As the first sign of the zodiac, Aries sets the tone for who we are and who we can become, empowering us to feel good without seeking external validation.
Embrace Your Authentic Self
There is something undeniably captivating about the presence of an Aries. As one of the four cardinal signs, Aries leads the zodiac with confidence. Embracing Aries energy means granting yourself permission to be your whole self.
Consider the mesmerizing energy of a Black danceline at an HBCU. When Black majorettes take the stage, they command attention with their movements, embodying the magnetic and enchanting energy of Aries.
Myleik Teele wisely advises, "Be so unapologetically yourself that people know if they're a fit for your world quickly." Aries season encourages us to unlearn self-sacrificing behaviors and embrace our true selves. We can show up as our complete selves, unapologetically granting ourselves permission to be whole.
Horoscopes
Aries
Dear Aries, it's time to restore your relationship with yourself. You've been giving your energy to others, but now it's time to nurture your own needs. Stop pretending everything is okay. Have those difficult conversations and stop ignoring your feelings. The more you hold back, the less you show up as your true self. Be honest with yourself.
Taurus
Consider what's more important: the image of a good life or truly having one? Are you pressuring yourself to be someone you're not? Reflect on what you need right now. Is it leadership or rest? Allow yourself the space to learn and grow.
Gemini
Pay attention to how people show up for you. Are you trying to save them? Is the relationship reciprocal? Reflect on whether you're parenting someone who isn't your child and if the relationship nurtures you.
Cancer
Sweet Cancer, you've built barriers instead of safe spaces. You've protected your heart, but now it's time to open up to new experiences. You can't hide behind walls forever.
Leo
Avoiding emotional depth hinders growth. Vulnerability is key to better relationships. Surface-level friendships don't fulfill you. Be honest about how you've shown up for others to attract more meaningful connections.
Virgo
Are your words and actions aligned? Have you replaced your true self with what others need? Admitting you have too much on your plate is a strength. Stop making life harder for yourself.
Libra
To understand your needs, acknowledge your emotions. Use them as a guide. Journal your feelings to gain insight into why you feel the way you do.
Scorpio
You are where you need to be, Scorpio. Trust your path and let go of fear. Your thoughts guide you to answers. Trust yourself and own your choices.
Sagittarius
Honesty protects you from people-pleasing cycles. Be truthful about your feelings and stand firm. Your words hold power this season.
Capricorn
You're overdue for alone time. Projects have distracted you from your inner world. Face what's been weighing you down. Have those difficult conversations to lighten your life.
Aquarius
Closed mouths don't get fed, Aquarius. Delays occur because you're not asking for what you need. Be brave enough to express your needs. You deserve love and support.
Pisces
Your power can also drain you. If relationships aren't reciprocal, call your power back. Stop maintaining unbalanced situations. End the chapter of giving without receiving.